Welcome to Holland

Here is the short story referenced during Accepting Children with Special Needs meeting:

 

http://www.our-kids.org/Archives/Holland.html

by Emily Perl Kingsley.

I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability – to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It’s like this……

When you’re going to have a baby, it’s like planning a fabulous vacation trip – to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It’s all very exciting.

After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, “Welcome to Holland.”

“Holland?!?” you say. “What do you mean Holland?? I signed up for Italy! I’m supposed to be in Italy. All my life I’ve dreamed of going to Italy.”

But there’s been a change in the flight plan. They’ve landed in Holland and there you must stay.

The important thing is that they haven’t taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It’s just a different place.

So you must go out and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.

It’s just a different place. It’s slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you’ve been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around…. and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills….and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.

But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy… and they’re all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will say “Yes, that’s where I was supposed to go. That’s what I had planned.”

And the pain of that will never, ever, ever, ever go away… because the loss of that dream is a very very significant loss.

But… if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn’t get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things … about Holland.

Daddy’s Letter Example

Example of a Daddy’s Letter: 

Dear (child’s name),

Hi! I wanted to write you a letter and also ask you to do something that will really help me.

First, I wanted to tell you just how proud I am of you. You have done so many things that have made a difference in our lives. (Share a few examples of the positive things that your child has done and how proud you are of them). Dad really loves you and wants so much for you to realize your dreams in life.

You see, I want to be a good Daddy, but sometimes I don’t always know what to do, so I wrote out some questions that I put in this letter. Would you do me a favor and spend some time thinking about the questions, and then answering them for me? I would really appreciate it. I want to spend more time with you and I want you to enjoy it as much as me. But I want to do things that you would really like. You are a great (son/daughter), and I am proud to be your Dad.

As soon as you get done with your answers, give them to me and I will read them. Then we can begin to plan this next year! I’m looking forward to it!

Love,  Dad

On a separate piece of paper write questions that you want answered. Samples questions might be: What one thing (or several things) have you wanted to do with Dad, but have never done? What one thing would you really like Dad to teach you, or tell you, that he never has? What have you done with Dad in the past that you really enjoyed, but don’t get to do enough? What one thing is really on your mind that you want me to know about?

You may use an email instead of a letter, or even a text message. Or, if you aren’t a writer (or your children are too young to read), you may just ask the questions of your kids in person.

100 Conversation Starters for Family Discussions

Here is the webpage that Kevin McDonough shared:

 

Parents often tell me they don’t know where to begin to have a “real” conversation with their child.  These questions will get you started.  Rather than badgering your child with them, use one as the jumping off point for a two-way conversation.  Start by asking your child the question, and listen to the answer, remembering to reflect back what she’s saying so she knows you understand.

Don’t shy away from expressing your opinions, as long as you remember not to lecture; kids are often curious what parents think. 

The point is developing the habit of conversation and deepening your relationship. 

These questions also work well to launch family dinner table conversations.

Read the questions at http://www.ahaparenting.com/parenting-tools/communication/family-discussions

Bless Our Family

All praise to You, Lord Jesus,
Lover of children:
Bless our family,
And help us to lead our children to You.

Give us light and strength,
And courage when our task is difficult.
Let Your Spirit fill us with love and peace,
So that we may help our children to love You.

 

Lord, behold our family here assembled. 
We thank you for this place in which we dwell, 
for the love that unites us, 
for the peace accorded us this day, 
for the hope with which we expect the morrow, 
for the health, the work, the food, 
and the bright skies that make our lives delightful

 

http://www.beliefnet.com/Prayers/Catholic/Parenting/Bless-Our-Family.aspx

The Testimony Of Catalina On The Holy Mass

Note:  This article was referenced during What is really going on during the Mass?

 

An excerpt from the document:

 

This is the testimony that I must and want to give to the whole world,
for the greater Glory of God and for the salvation of all of those who
want to open their hearts to the Lord. It is also given so that many
souls consecrated to God will rekindle the fire of their love for Christ,
some of whom are the owners of the hands that have the power to bring
Him to our world so that He can become our nourishment. It is also
given for others so that they break lose of the “routine practice” of
receiving Him and relive the amazement of their daily encounter with
Love. And it is given so that my lay brothers and sisters from the entire
world live the greatest Miracle with their hearts: the celebration of
the Eucharist.

The Mass from the Bible

Note:  the following notes were compiled by Michael Copfer.   This was provided as a handout during What is really going on during the Mass?

 

“As the Mass moved on, however, something hit me. My Bible wasn’t just beside me. It was before me-in the words of the Mass! One line was Isaiah, another from the Psalms, another from Paul. The experience was over whelming. I wanted to stop everything and shout, “Hey, can I explain what’s happening from Scripture?” (Scott Hahn describing his first Mass in “The Lamb’s Supper”)

(The following list is not meant to be all inclusive but a representation):

OPENING RITE

Procession Song – Psalm 100:2

“worship the LORD with cries of gladness; come before him with joyful song.”

Procession Song – Revelations 15:3-4

“and they sang the song of Moses, the servant of God, and the song of the Lamb: “Great and wonderful are your works, Lord God almighty. Just and true are your ways, O king of the nations. Who will not fear you, Lord, or glorify your name? For you alone are holy. All the nations will come and worship before you, for your righteous acts have been revealed.”

Penitential Rite – Psalm 51:12

“A clean heart create for me, God; renew in me a steadfast spirit.”

Gloria – Luke 2:14

“Glory to God in the highest and on earth peace to those on whom his favor rests.”

Psalm 92:2

“It is good to give thanks to the LORD, to sing praise to your name, Most High,”

THE LITURGY OF THE WORD

Mathew 4:4

“He said in reply, “It is written: ‘One does not live by bread alone, but by every word that comes forth from the mouth of God.”

Alleluia – Revelations 19:1

“After this I heard what sounded like the loud voice of a great multitude in heaven, saying: “Alleluia! Salvation, glory, and might belong to our God”

Romans 10:17

“Thus faith comes from what is heard, and what is heard comes through the word of Christ.”

Homily – 1 Peter 4:11

“Whoever preaches, let it be with the words of God”

Homily -1 Thessalonians 2:13

“And for this reason we too give thanks to God unceasingly, that, in receiving the word of God from hearing us, you received not a human word but, as it truly is, the word of God, which is now at work in you who believe.”

Profession of Faith – Hebrews 11:6

“But without faith it is impossible to please him, for anyone who approaches God must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who seek him.”

Profession of Faith – Mathew 10:32

“Everyone who acknowledges me before others I will acknowledge before my heavenly Father.”

Profession of Faith – Romans 10:9

“for, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.”

Prayers of the Faithful – Hebrews 7:25

“Therefore, he is always able to save those who approach God through him, since he lives forever to make intercession for them.”

THE LITURGY OF THE EUCHARIST

Presentation of the Gifts – Malachi 3:10

“Bring the whole tithe into the storehouse, That there may be food in my house, and try me in this, says the LORD of hosts: Shall I not open for you the floodgates of heaven, to pour down blessing upon you without measure?”

Priest Washes Hands – Psalm 51:4

“Wash away all my guilt; from my sin cleanse me.”

Holy, Holy, Holy – Isaiah 6:3

“Holy, holy, holy is the LORD of hosts!” they cried one to the other. “All the earth is filled with his glory!”

Holy, Holy, Holy – Revelations 4:8

“Day and night they do not stop exclaiming: “Holy, holy, holy is the Lord God almighty, who was, and who is, and who is to come.”

Hosanna – Mark 11:9-10

“Those preceding him as well as those following kept crying out: “Hosanna! Blessed is he who comes in the name of the Lord! Blessed is the kingdom of our father David that is to come! Hosanna in the highest!”

Hosanna – Mathew 21:9

“The crowds preceding him and those following kept crying out and saying: “Hosanna to the Son of David; blessed is he who comes in the name of the Lord; hosanna in the highest.”

Eucharist – Mathew 26:26-28

“While they were eating, Jesus took bread, said the blessing, broke it, and giving it to his disciples said, “Take and eat; this is my body.” Then he took a cup, gave thanks, and gave it to them, saying, “Drink from it, all of you, for this is my blood of the covenant, which will be shed on behalf of many for the forgiveness of sins.”

Eucharist – Luke 22:17-20

“Then he took a cup, gave thanks, and said, “Take this and share it among yourselves; for I tell you (that) from this time on I shall not drink of the fruit of the vine until the kingdom of God comes.” Then he took the bread, said the blessing, broke it, and gave it to them, saying, “This is my body, which will be given for you; do this in memory of me.” And likewise the cup after they had eaten, saying, “This cup is the new covenant in my blood, which will be shed for you.”

The Lords Prayer – Mathew 6:9-13

“This is how you are to pray: Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name, your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as in heaven. Give us today our daily bread; and forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors; and do not subject us to the final test, but deliver us from the evil one.”

Sign of Peace – John 14:27

“Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give it to you. Do not let your hearts be troubled or afraid.”

Breaking of the Bread – John 1:29

“Behold, the Lamb of God, who takes away the sin of the world.”

1 Corinthians 5:7

“For our paschal lamb, Christ, has been sacrificed.”

Revelations 19:9

“Then the angel said to me, “Write this: Blessed are those who have been called to the wedding feast of the Lamb.” And he said to me, “These words are true; they come from God.”

Luke 7:6-7

“And Jesus went with them, but when he was only a short distance from the house, the centurion sent friends to tell him, “Lord, do not trouble yourself, for I am not worthy to have you enter under my roof. Therefore, I did not consider myself worthy to come to you; but say the word and let my servant be healed.”

THE DISMISSAL

Mathew 28:19-20

“Go, therefore, and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you. And behold, I am with you always, until the end of the age.”

OTHER

Alter – Revelations 8:3

“Another angel came and stood at the altar … on the gold altar that was before the throne.”

Robed Clergy – Revelations 4:4

“Surrounding the throne I saw … elders sat, dressed in white garments and with gold crowns on their heads.”

Candles – Revelations 1:12-13

“I saw seven gold lampstands 13 and in the midst of the lampstands one like a son of man, wearing an ankle-length robe, with a gold sash around his chest.”

Incense – Revelations 5:8

“gold bowls filled with incense, which are the prayers of the holy ones.”

Incense – Revelations 8:3-4

“Another angel came and stood at the altar, holding a gold censer. He was given a great quantity of incense to offer, along with the prayers of all the holy ones, on the gold altar that was before the throne. The smoke of the incense along with the prayers of the holy ones went up before God from the hand of the angel.”

Are You Getting Enough Sex?

Here’s an interesting article that Rich forwarded on.  It reinforces a lot of the discussion we had with Dr. Bill and Deacon Dave

Men complained they weren’t getting enough sex, as did two-thirds of the women who complained – but another third of the women said they were having more sex than they wanted.

The New York Times interviewed the authors of this study who said that sex problems generally come from a failure to communicate. Apparently, if we all talked more with our partners about our dissatisfaction with our sex lives, we would be happier.

Continue reading on http://health.lifegoesstrong.com/are-you-getting-enough-sex

Honesty Prayer

Your Words are carved for eternity!
You have commanded the virtue of honesty,
It is the power against all deceptions.
Direct Your Spirit of honesty upon me,
That my soul may always remain stainless.
Guide my daily thoughts, words and actions,
To join those living by the Spirit of truth.
For honesty yields harmony and loyalty,
Enriching all human relationships.
By the power of Your Spirit that flourishes,
Honesty will prevail in this world! Amen

9 Tips for Spiritual Dry Spells

The following list was presented at our last meeting.  Read the linked article for the detailed discussion for each tip.

 http://www.conversiondiary.com/2009/07/9-tips-for-spiritual-dry-spells.html

  1. Make sure you’re not doing anything to block out God’s voice
  2. Keep praying (no, seriously, keep praying)
  3. Receive the sacraments
  4. Read inspiring spiritual books
  5. Make sure there’s not a physical cause
  6. Make sure you’re recharging your batteries
  7. Find a spiritual director
  8. Consider counseling
  9. Research the Christian understanding of spiritual dry spells