Followup from Doctor Bill and Deacon Dave

March 3, 2011 under Meeting Materials

Dr. Bill Wester and Deacon Dave Shea collaborated on the following note after our meeting last week on Sex in the marriage, as God intended it:

One of the biggest challenges that we, as husbands, will face in our marriages is that of coming to the realization that a problem we are having in our marriage and in our relationship with our wives is beyond our ability to solve on our own; that we need outside professional help from a marriage counselor or therapist. This can be even more daunting when we believe that we need the help of a professional sex therapist.

Can you imagine how our wives would respond if we approached them with something like the following: “I think we have a serious sex problem; I think you have a serious sex problem and we just haven’t been able to deal with it on our own. We need to see a sex therapist.”

Instead, how about a softer less threatening approach where the problem is placed on our shoulders whether we think it’s there or not:

“Just the other Friday, the FATHERS’ Team had a speaker, a psychologist and sex therapist. He answered many of our questions and also indicated that some problems with sex and intimacy are best handled by a therapist. I believe that we have a problem and it concerns me a great deal because I see it hurting our relationship and our marriage. That frightens me. I think that we need this professional help and I really want you to help me and come with me to see a sex therapist. I’m afraid and I’m embarrassed and this is going to be tough, but I think we have to do it. And we can’t do it alone and I need your support. I want us to do this as a couple. I realize I’m asking a lot but I don’t think we can do this without you.”

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